A 32-year-old, accomplished woman has a dating problem.
Or so she ‘thinks’…
This lady has a net worth of $1.5M and lives in Dubai.
Despite all the riches, she doesn’t feel rich in her heart.
Does she really have a dating problem?
By the way, if you’re new here, I am Jordan.
Did over $4.5M in Revenue.
Hired over 50 people.
And found out that these things actually do not matter.
What matters to me is the truth.
It’s not uncommon to hear, especially among successful women who are above 30, that they find it difficult to find a man…
But is the problem really SOLVED by finding a man? By having kids? By crafting a home? By creating a family? Or is it something else this woman longs for?
Please think about it…
If you found your dream man right now…
Who is ready to have kids…
Who checks almost every box…
Is your problem solved?
Or will new problems arise in this story?
The following is true for every human, except for a few enlightened beings.
Humans live in a continuous cycle of problems.
When one problem is solved, the next one arises.
It continues.
And what do these problems do?
They cause pain.
Almost every human is accustomed to this pain.
It’s incredible what we are capable of.
They are used to it.
But sometimes, the pain is just too much.
This is often the source of radical evolution in one’s life.
If you look back at your own life, what were the moments when you actually changed?
I am sure you have bought coaching, courses, programs, went on retreats, and did meditation.
But these are all ‘nice to haves’
They did not change you.
Did they?
The person who is obese continues to live with obesity…
Only when the doctor tells her, “You will die 6 months from now if you continue to live this way”, she evolves.
Now what is the truth for the 32-year-old successful lady?
She often feels lonely, but she can deal with it.
She goes to dinner parties with her girl friends…
Or dine outs with her gay friend…
Or openings and exclusive events surrounded by others…
Making ‘connections’…
But when she comes back to her dream house.
The emptiness settles in…
Now will her dream husband settle this loneliness?
Is it the solution?
Or is she trying to GET something from a man that he can NEVER GIVE her?
Is she trying to get something from her future family that they can never give her?
Is she trying to find a home in her house?
A house built on sand that cannot stand.
What is the truth?
Not right or wrong.
But the truth for this woman?
That she will remain dependent for the rest of her life.
Either on her husband, on her children, on her bank account, on her house, on her friends, on her followers.
And that is not bad.
Even though you read it as ‘bad’.
Dependence is a sand castle waiting for the tide.
What are the consequences of this dependence?
It is that she will stay in this endless cycle of temporary relief from loneliness, for it to arise just a few days later again.
This need will remain there.
Freedom lies in understanding your needs, not fulfilling them.
Unless she is able to understand all this need she has, all this need in a man.
If she is able to understand this need so deeply, in so much detail, to see all the roots of it, then she can free herself.
But who does this?
Do you know anyone?
Even psychologists don’t do this…
Psychologists listen, but do they truly hear?
They let you talk about your childhood drama or problems in your current life without UNDERSTANDING them. They even prescribe certain medications if you show signs of ‘depression’. They are blinded by the reality that their ‘patients’ remain ‘patients’ for years. That they remain patients until they die or until they are so fed up with ‘talking about their trauma’ that they find an excuse to not make the next appointment. They are ignorant of the reality that their patient still suffers from their problems YEARS after their first appointment. They don’t care about the cure, for it would make you leave and never return. They are conditioned by years of study from psychology books and names of ‘mental illnesses’ and steps to ‘treat’ them. Only for reality to show that it merely provides some comfort a few hours or days after their talk-listening relationship.
So she continues to live her life in NEED of a man, in NEED of kids.
She finds a man.
Perhaps he already has kids.
She pushes him to have kids together.
And she continues to need her man and her child.
She needs her man to be presentable on social media so that she can get validation from her followers and from her friends.
She has many needs from her kids too.
This is the truth.
She USES her man, she uses her kids to feel good.
I don’t blame her.
I don’t blame you.
You don’t know different.
She does not know ‘better’.
She doesn’t even know she’s doing it…
External accomplishments can’t cure internal emptiness.
How can you blame someone who continues to hurt her head if she hasn’t seen the door?
So the needs continue in her life.
And the fear that she will lose them.
You see this everywhere with parents.
Now that she finally has children, she fears losing them.
Wouldn’t it be beautiful if you could be at total peace just before and after your newborn child passes away?
Just like it doesn’t reach you when you read such a story in the newspaper or from friends.
That you can look at your husband not as your possession, but as another human.
That you can look at your children without seeing them as yours.
That you do not need anything from this world.
So you start to have everything.
Wouldn’t that be beautiful?
I got goosebumps…
Isn’t this what life is all about my friend?
That on your journey in life, you’ll find some trees, branches, and twigs.
You pick them up, you gather them, you lose some of them.
But it doesn’t matter.
Because you didn’t see them as YOURS.
Just like a butterfly that lands on your hand…
You don’t close your hands and squeeze it tight…would you?
You look at its beauty and it flies away and you continue your day…
This is not some imaginary world you can live in.
This is absolutely possible.
And perhaps the only question is do you want it?
Now that you know the ‘door’ is there…
Now that you heard about the possibility of ENDING this cycle.
You may start to walk that path.
Even though it is a lonely path…
Even though you can’t discuss it with your friends…
Even though it is a dark path without light, without guidance…
The question is do you want it?
Do you want to walk that path?
And it’s not even a question to ANSWER.
Just look a few months from now, where you started walking…
I said there is no guidance because can you think of anyone that wants to walk this path?
“How on earth can someone see their husband or their children not as THEIRS!?”
“How can she not feel pain when something happens to them?”
It’s impossible, right? Right?
The deepest truths often seem impossible at first glance.
Additionally, if you start walking this path…
Nobody can move your legs for you.
Perhaps the only thing that someone else can do with you is ask the right questions.
And to make you see the illusions of your past paths.
To end suffering, understand it completely.
May you continue to walk with wisdom, my dear.
Talk soon
Jordan
You may watch this video next about a similar story.
The ‘Accomplished’ Woman (Poem)
In English, she asks: “Why do successful women like me have a dating problem?”
In Poetry we say:
Money in the bank, but emptiness inside,
A dream house in Dubai, yet her dream man does nothing but hide.
Searching for this man to fill her void,
True peace remains to be enjoyed.
Dinner parties, events, and social scenes,
Can’t cure the longing for perfect dreams.
She fills her days with friends and things,
Yet emptiness still softly sings.
She doesn’t see the truth within,
That peace can’t come from outside in.
This dependence is a silent chain,
Binding her to future pain.
The cycle of need, it never ends,
Unless you look within, my friend.
Watch The Full Message here (when released):
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gu6VV1QBgac
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