Even if you aren’t extremely rich yet…

You will hear the truth about the search for genuine relationships.

By the way, if you’re new here, I am Jordan.

Did over $4.5M in Revenue.

Hired over 50 people.

And found out that these things actually do not matter.

What matters to me is the truth.

 

So what is the truth about finding genuine relationships if you are wealthy?

Well, there are a lot of things to unpack there.

Let’s start with the question “Why?”

Why are you looking for genuine relationships?

 

The quieter you become, the more you are able to hear.

~ Rumi

It’s a common problem amongst wealthy people that they feel LONELY.

 

Not all the time…

Some more than others…

But they feel more lonely than the majority of people.

I don’t want to go into why that is in this letter.

 

But could it be that the search for genuine relationships is an escape from loneliness?

 

Would you be asking the question of “How do I find genuine relationships?”…

…If you already had enough of them?

No right? Because you have limited time, you can only meet with so many people.

 

So there could be within you the feeling right now that you do not have enough genuine friends or one genuine partner.

 

Either in love life, or with friendships, or perhaps even business partners. 

You can say love and friend relationships are two different things, but are they?

 

Or are they both coming back to the RELATIONSHIP YOU HAVE WITH YOURSELF?

 

How can you expect others to change the relationship you have with yourself?

Because it appears to be something else you are looking for, isn’t it?

What is really true here? If you are escaping from loneliness?

Then what are the consequences of that?

 

Well, that you find a TEMPORARY solution, whenever you find a genuine relationship.

I say temporary because that person can pass away before you do…

Or for another reason leave your life…

Like many of your old friends are no longer there…

 

And more importantly, you can’t be surrounded by people CONSTANTLY.

 

So the consequence of escaping from loneliness is that you will still feel lonely.

JUST LESS OFTEN.

So my question to you… 

 

“Wouldn’t it be much better if you were not escaping from the loneliness at all?”

No negative thoughts whenever you are alone…

 

I am asking you.

Do you want this?

 

If you do not care about this, this is not a problem.

I am not suggesting you should care about ‘overcoming’ loneliness.

If you are uninterested, then you have to accept the consequences, or you will be in conflict.

How can you expect a lasting solution in something that will always be temporary?

How can you expect to find a friend/partner and never feel lonely anymore?

You cannot, but if you don’t see this illusion, you will remain in conflict.

Understand the consequences of your desire.

Let’s dive into the question of “How do I find a genuine relationship?”

Either in love or in a friendship.

 

To find the truth, let’s look at what is NOT a genuine relationship…

Just look at your past relationships.

Which ones did not feel genuine?

 

You do not like it if you are being used for your money.

So you hide your wealth on some occasions.

 

You have met very few people in your life who are similar to you.

Who really understand you.

 

You would love it if others like you for YOU, even though they know you have money, success, and status.

 

But you hide it.

You can only do it for so long.

Eventually, you show it. Or they know it.

And often something changes about the other person.

Which leaves you with the question, how do I find a genuine relationship?

 

I have to return to the loneliness.

Because it is the truth.

 

You care about finding a genuine relationship, only because you have not accepted being alone.

Because if you were fine, being completely alone for the rest of your life, would you ask the question? Would you care about finding a genuine relationship? If you did not have the need for kids? If you did not have the need for sex? If you did not have the need for marriage? Or a partner? If you did not have the need for friends? And experiences together with others? If you did not have the need for all of that, you would not ask the question, how do I find a genuine relationship.

 

You would not be so attached to the idea of having a partner, having a friend.

Because continuing your day without one is okay to you.

But it is not right now.

 

Perhaps you are looking for something in other people, in someone else, that they can NEVER GIVE to you.

 

That it is a matter of time before you will be left disappointed, angry, bitter, or sad…

A matter of time before that person does something disingenuous, how small it may be.

I am not talking about you looking for perfection, and that THAT doesn’t exist, because it does.

 

Your life can be perfect, absolutely.

 

“If you give full freedom to each other, perhaps you can remain together for your whole life, or for the whole eternity because there is no need to get rid of each other.” ~ Osho

Is it fair to say that what you look for is unconditional love from others, from at least ONE person?

 

Whether you go broke or not, he or she will still be with you… 

Still like you as much as before…

That nothing will change.

Does this person exist?

Absolutely.

 

But it doesn’t matter whether you find this person or not.

They are rare, but it doesn’t matter.

 

Because when you find this person, you cannot cling yourself to him or her.

You cannot be around them 24/7.

You can try to.

 

But you will still be left with the fact that you will be alone.

And of course, this person can pass away or leave your life.

So it doesn’t matter.

 

“Most of us are lonely, and the older we get, the more lonely.
We discover our emptiness, what it means to be lonely.
To have no friend at all because you have led a superficial life and depended on others.

Exploited others, invested your thought, your feelings in another.
And when they go away, you feel so lonely and empty.
Out of that emptiness, there is self-pity.
And then you again begin the game of seeking somebody to fill that loneliness.
Can you see all this and learn from it?
Learn what it means to be lonely and not escape from it.
Look at it, live with it, see what is implied, so that psychologically you depend on nobody.
Then only will you know what it means to love.”
~ J. Krishnamurti

And perhaps the biggest truth here is that it doesn’t matter UNTIL YOU can love others unconditionally. Without any expectation.

 

So maybe you have to look in the mirror and ask yourself, 

“Am I genuine in my relationships? Have I been genuine in my relationships?”

Or, 

“Did I go with that friend to that event that I didn’t want to go to, just so that she or he would go with me whenever I didn’t want to go alone somewhere?

 

I can almost guarantee there are so many things that are ‘disingenuous’ about you.

 

And this is not bad.

I’m not judging you for it.

I’m simply stating the truth.

 

“Never ask, who is my real friend?
Ask, am I a real friend to somebody?
That is the right question.
Always be concerned with yourself.”

~ Osho

The truth about finding genuine relationships is not found in others.

It’s found within yourself.

And then the rabbit hole begins.

Maybe you were hoping for this letter to be practical.

Expecting a list of 10 places where you could find genuine people.

 

Number one, you should go to the library.

Number two, and three, and so on.

But that isn’t genuine because it’s not true.

And you know this.

 

May you start to look for the truth.

And if you don’t, understand the consequences.

Or remain in conflict.

 

Talk soon
Jordan

 

The Rich Friend (Poem)

In English wealthy people ask: “How do I find genuine relationships?”

 

In Poetry, I answer: 

 

Hiding behind walls of gold and fame, 

Wondering if anyone knows your real name. 

Friends come and go, like leaves in the fall, 

You question if they ever really cared at all. 

The truth you seek isn’t found out there, 

It’s hidden within, if you dare to stare. 

In the mirror, ask if YOU’ve been true, 

Or did you do things for others, so they will do something for you?

If you love without conditions, expecting nothing back, 

Perhaps that’s the key to fill the inner lack. 

You care about finding a genuine relationship, only because you have not accepted being alone.

 

Now will you face this fact, or keep escaping from the known, that you are on your own?

 

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